In this series, we will take a deeper look at relationships and what it means to have God at the center of who we are and who we love. As we saw this week’s message, that relationship can even help us answer the question: How do I find the perfect woman?

Key Takeaway

Stop looking for perfect.

When it comes to relationships, what the modern world calls normal can actually leave us frustrated and heartbroken. Fortunately, the book of Proverbs is full of Biblical wisdom that can help us not only live a life that is honoring to God but can guide us in making healthy relationship decisions.

Whether we are a man seeking “the one”, or a woman trying to live up to a perfect ideal, the wise words of Proverbs 31 are a helpful filter to show us what we should actually be looking for.

A Godly Woman: Trustworthy – stewards – partners – generous – compassionate – grounded – non-anxious presence wise – kind – attentive – driven – knows God

The trait that surpasses the rest is that she knows God.

No matter who we are, our relationship with God is what will develop and grow all the other positive traits in us. Instead of trying to find perfection, or be perfect ourselves, we should change our filter and remember that a perfect woman does not exist – but a perfect God does.

When we make him the center of our lives and our relationships, and find someone else who does the same, everything else will follow.

Pray

Prayer is our time to talk to God. Let this prayer inspire your conversations with God this week.

Father,

I love you. I welcome your presence into my life.

You pursue me with your love and grace even though I am far from perfect and don’t deserve it. I am so grateful. Your love teaches me how to love others and is developing me into someone who is more surrendered to you each day.

Lord, forgive me for when I have followed the world’s advice instead of your wisdom. Thank you for inviting me to center my life and relationships on you. I choose to let your wisdom guide me in how I live and who I love. Please show me where you would have me grow to live more like your son Jesus.

God, lead me toward others who will keep me grounded in your love, and give me the boldness to reflect that love to others who don’t know you yet. Help me to bring your wisdom and compassion into all my relationships. In Jesus’ name, amen.

Worship

Bring the worship set from this weekend into your Slot and Spot and praise God for his wisdom that guides your life and relationships.

• Faithfulness by Lakewood Worship
• House of the Lord by Vertical Worship
• The One You Love by Elevation Worship

Learn

This week, read through the scripture shared in the message and dive deeper into God’s word.

• Read Proverbs 31:10-12, 17, and 25-30.
• Read Made in His Image: Proverbs 31
• Watch – Bible Project’s Proverbs Overview
• Listen – Proverbs 31 from Through the Word

Reflect

Reflect on these questions during your Slot and Spot/discussions with others.

What’s one thing you learned from this message that you want to apply to your life this week?

• What step do you need to take to do that? Who can you lean on to support you in that step?

How would you describe “normal” romantic relationships in 2026?

• Which parts of that description feel wise to you? Which do not?
• Can you think of a relationship mistake that you’ve made in the past that was driven by worldly wisdom? How could you apply Biblical wisdom to your relationships instead?

Proverbs 31 describes a “perfect” woman as a wise woman who is faithful and fears the Lord.

• How does the list of traits in Proverbs 31 compare to what is considered a “perfect” woman today?
  • How does that comparison impact your own ideas of a perfect woman?
• Can you think of specific women in your life who live out any of these traits?
  • What can you learn from their example?
• If you are a man seeking a “perfect woman” which traits have you been overlooking in your search?
  • How would making God the center of your life impact your search?
• If you are a woman, which trait do you feel God calling you to grow in this year?
  • What is one way you can lean into your relationship with God to help you develop that trait?

Next Steps

This week, take a step to change your filter around relationships from worldly wisdom to God’s truth. Swap out the comparison trap of social media for the loving direction of the Bible. Start with reading Proverbs 31 and reflect on how you can apply that filter to your life and pursuit of relationships.

The key to having good relationships is to take steps to find them. Join a J-Group now and surround yourself with some other people who will walk alongside you in faith.